Flirting Shamelessly's topics - tribe.net

If We Were Drunk

dsoul — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 13:59:14 GMT

Let's say you and I met at some kind of rave party, and there's loud music going on, drinks are flowing like water, and you and I find ourselves in a corner away from the madenning crowd ...

You think you and I can get something going on?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Costumes?

Amelia — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 22:38:33 GMT

Ok, my mate is really into costumes.....but I don't want to go with the typical nurse, school girl, pirate, dominatrix............any unique ideas that turn you guys on?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Public Affection: Yes or No?

dsoul — Wed, 14 May 2008 13:30:35 GMT

Do you like it when your lover displays some form of loving affection towards you usually in public, like holding your hand, wrapping an arm around your waist, or grabbing your face for a kiss, or would you prefer if he/she doesn't at all for people watching?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 32 replies

addicted to exes?

KnowledgeisPower23 — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 10:27:46 GMT

I have had unexpected tests of my ability to rest my points of view. Is lust necessarily a bad thing? Know thyself because whatever you see as 'bad' is merely reflection from within. I'm learning to accept aspects of my personality.
I have just written a poem about a dude who is physically and emotionally addicted to his ex-girlfriend. I'd appreciate reflection, both criticisms of the poem or advice about the subject matter! lol
Tribe used to be much better for dialogue, there have been less comments in the past year. I expect things will change when people stop relying on facebook...

http://people.tribe.net/knowledgeispower23/blog/c06df1a9-6d76-4001-96b4-6847ffe1ef3f

Inner Peace

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Beautiful people! (I see youuu!) 'Shout out'

ReachOut — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 06:31:47 GMT

Browsing through the tribe members list.... wow, so many wonderful and good looking folks.
This is just a quick sampling of who I'd like to give a "shout out" to. Hey ya, you sexy! Whassssuuupppp? to:

Ashley M, BadAss, Bender, BettieJune, Billy d, Bo, Bonnie Rose Parent, Brian (Portland), Bubbles, Ch'i A, Chad t, Charlie G, Christina (SFBA), Creech, Dan (SFBA/Larkspur), Darling Nikki, Elle, Finn, FireBrand, Firstlight, G-mo, Gary B, Gillian, Gustavo, Haley, Hunter, Ian (UK), Jacob (Seattle), Marco Polo, Miles (Netherlands), Mocha Latte, Morgan (Sacramento), Norcalpieman, Roxyblue, Scott (Chicago), Sparky, Steve (SFBA/San Jose), Stuart (Los Angeles).

So many others, but time is short....

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 33 replies

Bullfrogs...

Mark — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 04:17:05 GMT

Did you ever wake up with bullfrogs on your mind?...

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

A younger girl...

Mark — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 16:26:04 GMT

'...A younger keeps a'rollin across my mind
No matter how much I tried I can't seem to leave the memory behind...'

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Do You Consider Yourself Good in Bed?

McAllisterArt — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 03:29:37 GMT

I do. I know that when I am properly inspired, appreciated and comfortable, I can ROCK my lover's world.
Having recently experienced a rejection of further interest by someone who'd only had a wee taste, I found myself thinking: "Your loss, buddy!".

Do you feel you are a good lover? Do you feel you have some amazing lovin' to offer someone who deserves it?
Or are you unsure of your skills in bed? Feel uncomfortable?

Have you been praised or criticized (or both) about your performance?
I guess this question's getting a bit complicated. Answer or riff on whichever part(s) you want!

PS: just because I know I'm good doesn' mean I don't know I can still learn and improve!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 62 replies

When A Woman Stares ...

dsoul — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 19:52:55 GMT

I don't know if any of you have been in this type of situation before, because I have, though some of you might find it familiar:

There you are, seated in a bar or restaurant, or in a shopping mal, and there's this gorgeous damsel staring right at you from across the room. How do you often find yourself reacting to this? Do you think of a means of getting her attention, or do you just up and walk away and pretend you never felt her eyes hit upon you?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 9 replies

come on peeps

simon_p — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 22:37:06 GMT

Lets get your flirt on, that is why you are here. Flirt here, then flirt in person, see where it goes

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

OK... let's get down to some serious flirting!

Ron — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 15:25:37 GMT

I'm sick with the flu, and need something to lift my spirits!

Go on, flirt with me, you know you want to!

:P

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

Lupin Lover's Day Eve Lock and Key Party

Cindy — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 20:01:21 GMT

Lupin Lover's Day Eve Lock and Key Party
Check out this recently posted event.
http://sanfrancisco.tribe.net/event/Lupins-Lovers-Day-Eve-Lock-and-Key-Party/san-francisco-ca/c65e95ee-cefd-4589-9389-f1937b338108

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Where is Everybody...

SpiritFlame — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 02:28:18 GMT

Anybody flirt around here anymore??

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 13 replies

new flirt

Sun, 14 Sep 2008 00:29:29 GMT

just joined this tribe and I love to flirt so don't be shy.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 28 replies

SF Flirting...

RyanShakes — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 21:50:57 GMT

I'm visiting in SF only for a few days....from NYC
(couldn't make it to the desert this year....had a family emergency, and now I'm itching to be a part of some fun here in SF this weekend.)

anyone got suggestions?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

about Burning man ?

filoxera — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 17:52:48 GMT

anybody in ?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 4 replies

Burning Man 2008 Hedonic Sensuous Massage Campmates

Sound Man — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 17:54:33 GMT

We are the organizers of the Burning Man 2008 Hedonic Sensuous Massage theme camp. Join us in offering sensuous massages to fellow "burners". No experience necessary. You only need to be a normally sensual person and willing to learn. We are a fun-loving group of amateur yet erotic men and women who seek the same to serve the community with an exceptional experience of a lifetime with the goal being their most enjoyable, happy, and sensuous massage ever. If interested, call Aloha and SoundMan at (775) 233-3608 and check out Aloha's myspace.com site "Aloha BRC Burner" at http://www.myspace.com/alohaburner for a complete description of our previous years' camps. We will be located at Gemini and 4:30

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

what ? 4868 ? its been some time

BonnieRose — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 02:38:35 GMT

shamelessly self promo

its been some time

yeah. but you know you missed me.

just up www.bonnieroseart.com

did you miss me?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

Get your flirt on

simon_p — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 21:43:19 GMT

ok folks, lets try to get this tribe back to how it was, start your flirting ;)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 16 replies

new moderator

simon_p — Thu, 22 May 2008 03:24:59 GMT

Looks like we need a new one again. Anyone interested besides me?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 9 replies

Friends with a married person

edo — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:19:27 GMT

You know, this is somehow sticky. Maybe just for me.
What have been successful ways for you to retain the playful flirting without the married persons partner getting pissed? Even when they are choosing to not be included?
Does flirting to some folks mean "we are going to have sex" ?
The choice to create separation is a curious one. I know I've done it myself , maybe that's how I recognize it...any POV out there?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Summer Days

dsoul — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:22:18 GMT

Hi there folks!

Just wanted to stop by here and enquire how's the hot sunny summer time looking out for any of you out there? Anybody doing any flirting lately?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

SUPPORT OUR LOCAL THEME CAMPS!

NAT — Sat, 10 May 2008 00:00:33 GMT

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3195/2478686605_716f0a420e_o.jpg

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2172/2478686719_02f0610380_o.jpg

COME ON DOWN AND SUPPORT OUR LOCAL THEME CAMPS!

FUN FAIR STYLE WITH BOOTHS!

SAT. MAY 10th
5040 se Milwaukie

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Go out and vote in June!

Wendy — Tue, 06 May 2008 19:40:31 GMT

To all you peeps in California:

Hi all,

This is to let you know that a vote is coming up on June 8th in California.

I want to draw your attention to an aspect of Proposition 98 that is not publicized. Under the guise of protecting property rights 98 WILL ABOLISH RENT CONTROL IN CALIFORNIA. If you feel like I do - that rent control is a necessity of life for many Californians, please inform as many people as you can of this hidden agenda. Please also remember to come out and vote NO on 98.

If you feel Californians need to be protected against eminent domain abuse, prop 99 provides this without abolishing rent control.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Bored, trapped at work, on a Friday afternoon...

Prodigo — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 20:42:00 GMT

...with nothing but Tribe to keep me company.... Flirt with me and make the day go by faster! I promise not to leave marks!!!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Hanging Out With Someone Outside Tribes

dsoul — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 13:30:43 GMT

Any of you in here ever met someone in Tribes they'd so much like or love to hang out with?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 19 replies

What is your most fav part of a womans body?

trinsic — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 05:59:22 GMT

Id go for the nape of the neck. Today I met a girl that was really good at revealing that part of her self.. She had her hair up in buns with a low cut black top and a hand made necklace to boot, girls really know how to put things together to maximize gazing from the males point of view..

Another thing I heard was that when women dress really good to go out and have fun, they are not necessarily dressing for guys, but to out do other girls. Not all girls do that, but I thought it was curious. Maybe start a flirt topic on that, hmm? ;)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 42 replies

Whispers

Tue, 08 Jan 2008 00:07:06 GMT

When making love or having sex...
...what do you like whispered in your ear by your breathy lover?

H.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 13 replies

Two Tits

KnowledgeisPower23 — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 15:57:54 GMT

http://people.tribe.net/knowledgeispower23/blog/1d68934a-e5f4-4042-8f80-64e713a4c111

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Bad Boys versus Nice Guys

Mark — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 15:34:56 GMT

Many women prefer “bad boys”. I, on the other hand, am a nice guy with no tattoos, piercings or criminal record and pose imminent danger to no one. Moreover, I love reading poetry, such as the one below, and have been known to pen a verse or two. I am not particularly handsome or sexy but do not crack mirrors when I look into them and digital cameras continue to function after they have captured my image.

My Lady Can Sleep
By Leonard Cohen

My lady can sleep
Upon a handkerchief
Or if it be Fall
Upon a fallen leaf.

I have seen the hunters
kneel before her hem
Even in her sleep
She turns away from them.
The only gift they offer
Is their abiding grief
I pull out my pockets
For a handkerchief or leaf.

My question is could a nice guy such as myself be appealing to women?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 20 replies

Erotic Arts Party in NYC Feb 13 (and need some performers)

sparktrue — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 00:23:30 GMT

Hi...
I'm out in LA but I'm working to help my cousin set up an erotic arts party
in NYC on Feb 13....(I'll be out on the 11th to set up)
we need a few more acts for the main stage... the more artistic the better...
You can check out the myspace page he made at
www.myspace.com/saintvenustheater

There will be music and performers and some
erotic lap dancers - but the intention is to not be any one thing...
it is not a strip club or a burlesque show, or a fetish event... and there is
no sex .... but there is a lot of fun from all directions.

and if anyone wants to go just send me an email...
but if you have an act or know someone who does and could forward this
it would be greatly appreciated.

Previously we have only had very small private parties. This is the first one
in a long time open to the public and for a bigger crowd. If this one
goes well we'll do them regularly.

Cheers
rr

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

E-Mail Flirting at Work....

Wilson — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 18:33:54 GMT

I love the idea of getting dirty email while at work..nothing excites me more than reading an erotic email from a sexy woman while in my office....are there any women interested in this?? Just seems harder and harder to find a woman who is up to this...

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

Desperation: Men or Women

dsoul — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 13:02:57 GMT

Whom would you say are often more deperate when it comes to hooking up, men or women?

For me, I'd place my bets on women. A lot of lonely women out there, and a lot of them still don't know what they want even when they know they need it so bad.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 4 replies

Go without underwear

trinsic — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 18:41:45 GMT

The other day I ran out of clean underwear so I put on a pair of jeans and a tee shirt and ran errands all day while I washed cloths at home.

I felt really sexy not wearing any thing under my jeans, and my thingy was getting hard throughout the day. It was a wonderful feeling.

Anyone do this from time to time? it turns me on thinking about how accessible i am when I get felt up.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 61 replies

Lifestyle info

Felip94608 — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 21:35:02 GMT

What is Swinging?

Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate friendships. Contrary to popular belief, couples that are involved in the swinging lifestyle are usually in it more for the friendship with other couples rather than the sex involved. Hence, the expression used in the lifestyle: "friends with benefits".

Swinging (otherwise known as "the lifestyle") can take a variety of different forms. Although single women are generally welcome at swinging events, the degree to which single men are accepted is very limited if at all. Although female bisexuality is generally accepted in the swinging community, the degree to which male bisexuality is accepted also very limited. Swing clubs can be "on-premises" (which means that one may interact sexually with others at that event) or "off-premises" (which means that one would generally go back to the home or hotel room of other couples for sex, after deciding to do so at the event).

Newspapers and magazines, which carry personal ads for swingers, also exist, and to a slightly lesser degree these publications may also be considered an aspect of "the lifestyle." Swingers have traditionally been largely middle to upper class and tend to blend in quite easily with the general population in terms of appearance and ideology.
What Might I Like About Swinging?

People may be attracted to the swinging community for a variety of different reasons. Many couples find the thought of having sex with other people to be very arousing, and may find that swinging becomes a catalyst for improving their sex lives and relationship. Some people may feel stifled by repressive societal attitudes towards sexuality, and may welcome the opportunity to form friendships and a new social network with people of like mind.

Others may simply feel that sex should be a natural possibility in any friendship in which there is mutual attraction, and so appreciate the relative open-mindedness and pleasure-positively with which the swinging community views this subject. Although the swinging community is unfortunately not always the best place right now for het-identified men to explore their potential bisexuality, it is currently a relatively good place for het-identified women to initially explore sex with other women, and this sometimes plays a role in couples choosing to seek it out. In the past, the swinging community has been somewhat unaware of or confused by alternative sexual practices such as BDSM or Tantra. This appears to be changing, and these days you may find many folks in the swinging community who are knowledgeable about such things (though forms of BDSM much more extreme than spanking or very light bondage may make people uncomfortable, depending on the club).

If you're interested in doing so and spend enough time meeting different people, you may actually find that today's swinging community is becoming a somewhat fertile place to meet folks with a variety of sexual interests. It is certainly true right now that the national swinging conventions tend to host seminars and workshops on a variety of sexual topics, which seems at least somewhat indicative of broadening perspectives in the community.

Some women may find the swinging community to be a welcome dose of sanity. Our culture can be quite cruel to women who have an active interest in sex, often derisively labeling them "sluts" - a term which stands in sharp contrast to the less derogatory term for men, "studs". The swinging community may be especially attractive to these women, who may feel their sex drives and/or sexual assertiveness should be appreciated rather than snickered about or reviled.

Some people end up learning quite a bit about themselves and their sexualities through swinging. For example, most folks find that having their partner actively enjoy and appreciate what they are experiencing during sex to be a tremendous turn-on; this is a realization which may stand in sharp contrast to the attitude that "performance" is all-important. Swinging can be an opportunity to learn to relax and appreciate sexual pleasure, and may help one view sex more as a source of pleasure and intimacy and less as a social bargaining chip or ego fuel.
What Might I Dislike About Swinging?

If you are uncomfortable with people being sexually attracted to you and/or flirting with you, then you might be uncomfortable at swinging events; similarly, if your relationship with your partner is on shaky ground, you might find seeing him or her flirt or be flirted with to be an uncomfortable experience. If either of you have hidden agendas concerning finding a permanent "replacement" for each other, you're probably in for a major emotional disaster. If you and your partner cannot communicate directly about relationships and sex, you're probably eventually in for a similarly sized disaster. In general, sex can provoke strong feelings along with its many pleasures; if you aren't comfortable dealing with emotions, then perhaps it might be better to wait a little while before exploring "the lifestyle." If you are a single male, you might actually be better off waiting until you are in a suitable relationship with a female before attempting to become active in swinging - most swing clubs allow very few if any single men to attend their events.
General Hints for Enjoyable Swinging

In the context of swinging, "couples" need not be married. They should, however, have at least a little history together and familiarity with each others' emotional needs, and be comfortable approaching others as a "couple." The general rule of thumb is that swinging works best when couples view swinging as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than as a replacement for a failing one.

As one would expect, good communication is critical in any attempt at swinging as a couple. There are many, many different forms that swinging may take, and whichever one you choose is fine as long as you and your partner are clear about what you are doing and why. Sex has the potential to be an emotionally-charged area, and the pleasures that may be found in swinging can generally be reached only when both partners are sensitive to each others' needs, and put their partner's comfort first. From a more pragmatic point of view, there will always be another party, another personal ad, another dance, another convention; there may not be another chance to salvage an exploration into swinging if one partner becomes overwhelmed in "the garden of delights" and forgets to treat his or her primary partner with sensitivity and respect.

It's important to keep in mind that swinging is primarily a SOCIAL activity. The ordinary social customs of meeting people and initiating a conversation are really not that different than at any other type of social gathering, and the process by which acquaintances become close friends is not that different either. The key social traits that tend to be appreciated in the swinging community are responsibility, friendliness, flirtatiousness, open-mindedness, and most importantly stability with regard to one's primary relationship.

As is the case with almost all human social endeavors, if you already know people in a particular community you'll probably be happier if you attend your first few events with these people so they can introduce you to others. Waiting a little while and watching how others behave is also a good idea, as it is in almost any new social situation. Common courtesy, of course, is as welcome in the swinging community as it is in any other community; we're all just people, after all.

There are several different styles of swinging which you may see in the swinging community. Some people may prefer not to be around when their partner is having sex with someone else ("closed swinging"), while others may insist on it ("open swinging"). The term "soft swinging" refers to trading partners just for the purposes of heavy petting and then switching back to one's primary partner for any actual sex. It might be valuable for you to think about whether there are any potential situations that you feel you would be more or less comfortable in, and discuss these with your partner.

Although not all couples find it necessary to do this, some couples feel more comfortable having social "codes" that only the two of them know. Examples might be discreet phrases or gestures which mean a) one of you is attracted to the people or person he or she is talking to and wants to know if you are interested in swinging with them, b) a reply to the above, either affirmatively or negatively, and c) one of you is not having a good time and wants to get away from things for a while.

At most swingers clubs, it's common for people to dress up or else wear very sexy and risqué clothing. If there's a dress theme for a particular event, go with the theme.

By the way, it is not necessary to actually have sex with other people to have a good time in the swinging community. Activities such as dances can provide a wonderful opportunity to flirt and be flirted with in a non-threatening yet sexually charged atmosphere, which can be fun.
Dealing with Jealousy

There are many different opinions about jealousy - several of the books recommended at the end of this guide devote considerable attention to the topic.

An interesting dynamic can sometimes arise in couples new to swinging, a dynamic which has inspired the community adage that "the more enthusiastic member of a couple will get the couple into swinging, but the less enthusiastic partner will keep them there." As Carol Queen puts it in her book Exhibitionism for the Shy
"The swing community has noticed another prevalent dynamic in couples where one partner, more often than not the man, has more enthusiasm than the other. He has had terrific fantasies about freewheeling sex and plenty of it, and he finally convinces his initially reluctant partner to give swinging a try. When they get to the party, she has a great time and is high demand, while he thinks the party's a dud... Before you pack up your sexy outfit and fistful of condoms, take some time to consider and negotiate how you will deal with the chagrin of the less popular partner if such a dismaying event happens to you."

In other words, some jealousy may spring from insecurity: if I'm worried that I'm not valuable enough to keep my primary partner's interest and love, or that fewer people will be interested in playing with me than with my primary partner, I may be more apt to get jealous. For the latter case, some of these fears may be alleviated by choosing, at least initially, to only swing together as a couple; this way neither partner can be left out.

Sometimes jealousy may spring from feelings of scarcity rather than feelings of insecurity: the fear is that "there's only so much love and so much pleasure and so much intimacy to go around." With this in mind, I'd like to quote from the NASCA Guide to Swinging, "The Myth of the Scarcity of Love is the popular belief that 'love is scarce,' which encourages hoarding. Hoarding, in turn, created the very scarcity that was feared to begin with. The myth's premises are that each of us has a very limited amount of love to give, spend, or sell; that if this is divided among several people, each will get less; that love can be saved; and that in order to be valuable, true love must be exclusive."

If you enjoy good literature and want to explore this idea in more depth, take the time to read a short story by Amy Bloom entitled "Love Is Not a Pie" (published in her Come to Me: Stories collection). But just as food for thought for the time being, you might consider a question which Dr. Deborah Anapol poses in Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits: "Imagine a culture in which your partner's attraction to another signified opportunities for greater pleasure and intimacy; would jealousy occur in this context?" I honestly don't know the answer to this question, but for me swinging has been part of the inquiry.

To end this section on a more practical note, many couples find that the secrets to dealing with jealousy tend to revolve around good communication, keeping agreements, reassuring each other as to your love and commitment before and after playing with someone new, and listening to each other's emotional concerns and taking them seriously whenever they arise. If jealousy becomes an issue for you and your partner, you might try working on some or all of these things. Of Interest to Men...

By including these warnings I do not mean to imply that all or even most men would ever act like this; chances are if you're still reading this document you already have a healthy social sense and wouldn't think to misbehave in these ways. But anyway, here goes...

Attempting to hire an escort or sex worker to go to a swinging event with you, if you don't have a regular female partner, just so you can get in the door is a terribly poor idea; this is considered inappropriate at every club I have ever heard of, is generally sufficient to get you black-listed, and is a ruse that is highly likely to be noticed by others. A related concept is taking along someone who isn't really your primary partner and isn't really interested in swinging; such folks are called "tickets" (i.e. you just used them as a "ticket" to get in the door), and this practice isn't looked upon favorably either.

If you want nothing more than to see your female partner have sex with another woman, you will probably be better off forgetting about it until she brings it up; wandering around the club by yourself attempting to find a woman who wants to have sex with her, or otherwise trying to push this personal choice into happening, is considered quite unrefined and to be lacking in discrimination and sensibility.

Finally, please remember to converse with both members of a couple you and your partner are interested in, not just the partner you are interested in having sex with; ultimately it's your ability to form friendships with COUPLES which will determine the quality of your experience in the swinging community.
Using Personal Ads

In general, you will probably waste less time by placing an ad than by responding to ads. When writing your personal ad, it's important to be clear and honest about what your requirements are. You may find it helpful to first obtain a P.O. Box and a voice mail box which aren't traceable to your real name or home address; it's also a good idea to arrange the first meeting with someone new to be in a neutral and/or public place, so that if things don't seem to be going well you'll be able to leave easily and nobody new will know where you live. Ultimately, however, if you have swing clubs (whether on- or off- premises) in your area you will probably be better off meeting swingers through them than through personal ads.
Keeping Yourself and Your Partner Healthy
Introduction

Each sex-positive community in this country has had a different response to the AIDS crisis, and in the face of a very frightening disease it is hard for me to fault people for acting irrationally sometimes. However, I believe the time has come for a more intelligent, pleasure-positive, and long-term response to STDs (of all kinds) than "excluding bisexual men," "inquiring about sexual histories and hoping for the truth," "trying to reassure yourself about how few people in your community you think are infected right now," "stigmatizing anal play," etc.

Learning to use latex and water-based lube skillfully may take a little practice, and ultimately it is up to you and your partner whether you will follow some or all the precautions I'm going to describe. However, try to keep in mind some of the payoffs: increased protection from disease, increased peace of mind, increased protection against pregnancy when another form of birth control (such as the pill) fails, and greater ease in interacting with younger swingers who may have never known a time when they haven't felt it necessary to use latex.
The Basics

Put simply, the single most effective thing you can do to stay healthy when swinging is to use latex condoms for intercourse; this practice is now extremely common in the swinging community, and is often expected.

All condoms are not made alike; men should experiment with different brands until they find the one they like best. When you put on a condom, pinch its tip as you unroll it (all the way down!) to prevent an air bubble from forming in the reservoir tip. For intercourse, you should then put some water-based lube (such as I-D, ForPlay, Wet, or Astroglide) on the outside of the condom for comfort, mutual pleasure, and to keep the condom from tearing during sex.

For a while, health experts were recommending that people use condoms and water-based lubes with Nonoxynol-9 to help guard against HIV transmission; current evidence suggests that, in the real world, N-9 is not nearly as good at HIV prevention as it has proved to be at contraception. Also, many women are allergic or sensitive to N-9, and it tastes horrid. For these reasons I only purchase products without N-9, but of course the choice is yours.

It should be obvious that a new condom needs to be put on for each new partner. If you're going to switch from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse, you should also put on a new condom (doing otherwise can cause vaginal infections - similarly, you shouldn't put any fingers that used to be in an anus in a vagina without first washing your hands with hot water and anti-bacterial soap).

Some men find that more sensation is transmitted to them if they put a drop of water-based lube in the tip of their condom before putting it on.
The History and Future of Swinging

Swinging dates back to the 1950's. Initially, personal ads were the only way to meet people in this particular lifestyle; the first organization to be open about swinging was the Sexual Freedom League (in Berkeley, California during the 1960's). Eventually, an umbrella organization called the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) was formed to promote accurate information about the lifestyle all across the country.

Currently the Internet is becoming an alternative to printed personal ads, and a variety of large swinger's conventions are being held every year. Popular conventions include "New Orleans Swing Fest", "Lifestyles", "Wind and Waves", "Campout", "Northwest Celebration", and "Visions".

My best guess as to the future is that as more people in this country begin to think of themselves as "open-minded" and "sex-positive", as our response to STDs becomes more rational, and as more people from other sex-positive communities begin to explore swinging, the swinging community will grow and begin to attract a new generation of sexually adventurous enthusiasts. I suspect that the size and influence of the annual swinging conventions will continue to grow, and also suspect that "cyber-space" alternatives to real-life swinging (involving interactive video, sound, etc.) will become increasingly popular.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

positions

Mon, 07 Jan 2008 06:44:58 GMT

what are your four favorite positions

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

Sex in Your Relationship

dsoul — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 16:41:38 GMT

How important do you often include sex in whatever relationship that you're about entering? And how do you often feel when discoering that your sexual appetite doesn't match evenly with that of your partner?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 36 replies

Separating the Fake from the Real

dsoul — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 16:14:16 GMT

How can you tell when a guy/lady is trying to play with your mind and when he/she is actually trying to get down with you for real. What are the signs you usually look out for?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 5 replies

Flirting vs. Sexual Harrassment

dsoul — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 12:49:57 GMT

This post is more of a continuation of my previous one. I'd like to know, in your own personal opinion does office fllirting with your fellow co-workers be regarded as gone too far? When can you tell if at all the line between flirting and sexual harrassment has been crossed?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 13 replies

Down Blue Periods

dsoul — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 16:34:46 GMT

Eveer found yourself having a sort of blue period where you just felt like staying away from sex or anything else related to it? Once I had one of such periods and it took me a long time to get myself off it.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 6 replies

Blind Dates, Anyone

dsoul — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 17:24:58 GMT

When was the last time you were involved in one, or if ever, would you like to be involved in one?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 10 replies

Finding FWB

John — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:15:12 GMT

How does one find a FWB that's right for you?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 4 replies

Heeeeelllllloooooo Flirters!!!!

Sun, 14 Oct 2007 19:10:26 GMT

So slow... It appears we need a little flirtin' action going on.

One of the things I don't like about flirting online is that I can't "look around me", spy a flirty face, make my way over to her, and start making her toes tingle.

Let's do an icebreaker!

List:

You porn star name (First pet + Street you lived on as a kid).

Three foods you would eat off of someone.

Music that describes your flirting style.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 8 replies

When YOu Wake Up In The Morning ...

dsoul — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 15:05:59 GMT

Here's a question that's bound to tease a little. When you wake up in the morning, what's usually the first few thoughts that come to your mind? Sex for me.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 14 replies

"Friends with Benefits"

999 — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 04:48:34 GMT

One thing I have learned about having "Friends with Benefits", or FWB's....

They usually are not very good friends and there aren't many benefits!

;)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 31 replies

The subtleties of seduction

Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:53:28 GMT

Alright you sexy tribesmen, My smokin' hot lover recently told me that he thinks American women are, in general, less practiced and skilled in the art of seduction than European women. Much to my dismay I'm fairly certain he was including me in this category, so I ask for your help in understanding...How do you like to be seduced? What makes your knees weak, sparks your erotic imagination and makes you lose your mind?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 18 replies

THIS JUST IN! Sunshine to host "Dirty Sex Talk Radio!" 1240AM WGBB

999 — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 00:58:57 GMT

I am hosting the show tomorrow by myself!

Call in and we can talk on the air about sex!

11pm-12am, Monday night EST 1240AM WGBB

The web link is below!

The theme is "Kinky Polyamory, orgies, and multiple partners" with special guest Monika Thomas, host of "Sexploration with Monika Thomas"

Three-somes, foursomes, eight-somes....have you ever had one? ever done an orgy? Do you go to a party and make out with everyone just for kicks? what about a "sportsman's trio"? are you part of a polyamorous relationship? or do you just have sex with a lot of people at the same time? What is the kinkiest experience you have had with more then one person?

Make sure you listen and you call in so you can tell us your Dirty Sex Story!

Its guaranteed to be fun! you will need a cold shower after listening!! ;) or at least some soap.....

www.am1240wgbb.com

Hotline:
(631) 888-8813
(631) 888-8812
(631) 888-8811

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

best place for sex

999 — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 06:51:23 GMT

well, what do you think?

where is the best place to have sex???

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 49 replies

Go Without Clothing

SpiritFlame — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 21:27:53 GMT

I tend to shed all clothing I can whenever I can get away with it in this rather prudish society of ours. I like the feeling of being natural... how many here also prefer to shed clothing required by the modesty rules of our society...

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 17 replies

I am on the radio tonight talking about sex, sensuality, and food!!

999 — Tue, 02 Oct 2007 01:32:39 GMT

hey everyone!

Sorry for the short notice!!!

I just got asked to be the special guest on a radio show about sex talk. I have NO IDEA what to expect, but it sure will be fun!

I will be probably talking about sensuality and food and my experiences with both, but as of right now-who knows! And soon I will be hosting my own talk show on the radio on nutrrition, food, and sensuality-I'll be talking about that tonight!

the info is below:

(new york area) 1240 am wgbb 11pm-12pm EST TONIGHT, monday octopber 1st

(everywhere else) streaming at www.AM1240WGBB.com

click on "listen now" in the right hand corner, or "on air" for the simulcast streaming version.

I hope you all listen, and we will be taking calls too!

**wish me luck***

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Submissive or Dominant

dsoul — Mon, 17 Sep 2007 17:22:16 GMT

Which would you prefer being when making love: the submissive partner or the dominant one who calls the shots ... or would you prefer being neither?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 7 replies

food and sex is fun

999 — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 07:17:22 GMT

have you ever had a food and sex experience?

I myself like to do hot things with agave nectar.....

massage with coconut oil is sexy-especially if you like to lick it off after the massage!

so what kinds of food woudl you use in a kinky/erotic/play experience??

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 8 replies

newbie flirting on the scene

PaTience — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 23:16:23 GMT

hey ya'll... newbie here w/ this particular tribe.. let's get our flirt on!!!!!

you and me
me and you
the things we could do
oooooh!!!!

hmmmmm

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

September 22nd, @ 8pm-11pm...

999 — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 16:56:47 GMT

O-Movie Salon: Like Water For Chocolate
Like Water for Chocolate
The youngest of the three daughters, Tita is forbiden to marry the
Love of her life, Pedro, by her domineering mother, who expects Tita
to care for her until she dies. Pedro's passion cannot be denied,
however, and the ensuing drama unfolds. Join Tita as she concocts
extravagant meals that captures her desires and thirst for her love.

Special guest: Michael Macaluso
Dive into the world of sensual food and aphrodisiacs with Michael
Macaluso. There will be special treats to tease your taste buds and
leave you wanting more. Michael is a certified Holistic Health
Counselor who specializes in Holistic Nutrition, Food Allergies and
whole food consulting. www.michaeljmacaluso.info

Movie: Free Guest Lecture: $10
09/22/2007
8:00pm - 11:00pm
REGISTER NOW
www.onetastesf.com/

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 6 replies

Flirting In The Office

dsoul — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 18:38:14 GMT

Ever tried flirting with your co-workers before? How did it make you feel?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 15 replies

I am feeling flirty.

Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:57:08 GMT

That is all.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 6 replies

Favourite Time for Sex

dsoul — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 16:10:56 GMT

What time of the day is your favourite time for indulging in sexual activities: morning, afternoon, after/between lunch break ... etc.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 26 replies

Being Watched

dsoul — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 19:35:24 GMT

Have you ever gotten an erotic feeling from being watched by other couples when having sex, or would you shrink from such ever happening to you?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 4 replies

Flirting Over The Phone

dsoul — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 19:38:21 GMT

Imagine those moments where you found yourself exchaning sexy and erotic lines back and forth over the phone ... both of you undressing each other ...

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 10 replies

Uncontrolable Flirting?

Petunia — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 04:49:34 GMT

Have you ever been around someone that no matter how hard you tried, or how inappropriate the setting or relationship (i.e., work colleague, teacher/student, etc.), -- or whether someone else was around -- you couldn't control what words were coming out of your mouth b/c they were just so sexy? I have been having that experience lately and it is as if my mouth has a mind of it's own b/c as the words are coming out, my mind is saying "Good lord, what are you saying to this person??? Control yourself!!! Be quiet!!! Stop!!!" But the naughty words just keep coming out...

Who is this person for you? What is it about them that makes you lose your common sense when you are around them?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 18 replies

flirting shamelessly instant message exchange

999 — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 08:28:26 GMT

what do you guys think?

we can arrange like, IM flirts for fun and profit (well ,not profit, that just sounded cool)..

and we can go do group IM flirts too!

ha!

what do you think?

am I crazy, or does this sound cool?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 12 replies

A Question of Seduction... :-)

SpiritFlame — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 22:06:11 GMT

So... to the women of this tribe. If I wanted to induce you to fall into my arms and let me sweep you off to my bed...

What would the secret be??

What is the secret that would melt you into a puddle of passion?? ;-)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 5 replies

how do you define seduction? how do you express it?

999 — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 06:02:53 GMT

Seduction can be defined as "creating the environment for surrender:.

What do you guys think?

what sort of environment do you create to have someone "surrender" to your desires?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 26 replies

Food Sensualist

999 — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 06:22:36 GMT

My friend Christina came up with that today...what do you guys think?

Thats my new title to go along with "holistic nutritionist"...

So, here's an interesting story about food and sensuality...

On friday, I went next door to this little cafe, looking for a brownie or cookie or something like that.

So I sit at the counter and the waitress was this REALLY adoably sexy russian girl with LONG black hair...oh my, she was CUTE! and VERY friendly.

So I flirt with her (naturally) and discuss the differences between "choclate fudge cake" and "chocolate mouse cake"...which of course, she had no idea what the differences were, if any...and I concurred. So I get the chocolate fudge cake, and she brings it to me smothered with choclate syrup (a woman after my heart!). And she is behind the counter leaning over washing something, right in front of me. So everytime I took a bite out of that rich, moist cake, I fantasized about taking her RIGHT there! There was something so sensual going on there, as she bent over and I could see just a peek down her shirt...and each bite felt like a little orgasmic experience; feeling the moist chocolaty goodness as I watched her from across the counter...and I savored every bite and every moment. every thing was in slow motion...I finished my cake and left her a nice tip and thanked her for the delicious cake (best chocolate cake I had in months!-really!)

So today, as I was doing my thing @ One Taste, I was CRAVING a brownie or a cookie...and everytime I thought of eating rich chocolaty goodness, I would think about that girl! I even contemplated going back to get a piece of cake, and of course to flirt, but they were closed. I went to Whole Foods and got a moist brownie, and it wasn't until I ate half the brownie that I realized that it wasn't the brownie I wanted; it was the sensual experience that I had the other day that the brownie represented to me.

What I really wanted was to go and flirt with that girl again, not a brownie.

I ate about half the brownie and set it aside in the fridge....funny how my craving for the brownie went away, but my thoughts still linger on that cutie from the cafe....

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 5 replies

Not Much Flirting Here at All

SpiritFlame — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 22:34:09 GMT

So come on... we need some flirting...

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 9 replies

Your Moderator will be in SF lecturing on food and sensuality! Come join us!!!!!

999 — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 03:05:54 GMT

Lecture series featuring Michael J Macaluso @ One Taste Urban Retreat Center, San Francisco

1074 Folsom Street
San Francisco, CA 94103 (Google Map)
Phone: (415) 503-1100
www.onetastesf.com
www.MichaelJMacaluso.info

Michael will be available for consultations the week of each lecture. If interested, please call One Taste or email Michael @ Michaeljmacaluso@aol.com for rates and availability.

Sensual Nutrition Panel: Nourishing the Body & Senses
Featuring:
Emily Longway
Ani Phyo
And Michael J Macaluso
Tuesday, August 28, 7:45pm-9:45pm

The One Taste/Sensual Visionaries panel proudly presents three experts in the
field of nutrition and health. Most of us are not conscious of the food we take
in and its impact on our body. In this evening's panel, learn about the
importance of nourishing your body from the inside out to increase sensation
and feel alive. The guest speakers are Ani Phyo and Michael Macaluso, moderated
by Emily Longway.

Ani Phyo is the author of Ani's Raw Food Kitchen: Easy Delectable Living Food
Recipes and founder of SmartMonkey Foods. www.aniphyo.com

Emily Longway attended the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in Manhattan,
where she received her accreditation from the American Association of Drugless
Practitioners. Emily specializes in nutritional detoxification using liquid
zeolites and is a master of raw superfood smoothies. www.zeonutrion.com

Michael Macaluso is a certified Holistic Health Counselor who specializes in Holistic Nutrition, Food Allergies and whole food consulting. He is a two-time graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York City with an accreditation from the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. www.michaeljmacaluso.info

Tuesday, August 28, 7:45pm-9:45pm, $15

Movie Salon: Like Water for Chocolate
An evening discussion and Q&A with Holistic Nutritionist Michael J Macaluso
Saturday, September 22, 8pm-11pm

Forbidden love and passion expressed through food; Join Us for the film Like Water for Chocolate, and a discussion on self-expression through food and aphrodisiacs afterwards. Michael will also field questions and talk about some of the themes of the movie, as well as share about his practice as a holistic nutritionist, cooking class instructor, counselor for emotional eating. Don’t miss this exciting event!
Special refreshments and goodies will be served!

Saturday, September 22, 8pm-11pm, $10

Filling the Void With Emotional Eating:
An evening lecture with Holistic Nutritionist Michael J Macaluso
Oct 23, 7:45pm-9:45pm

Food is our main source of nourishment. We eat to satisfy hunger, to nourish ourselves, and for pleasure. On the flip side, when our needs and desires go unfulfilled, we eat to fill the void, using food as a substitute for the fulfillment we crave. Food then becomes the replacement for emotional and sensual fulfillment. Join Michael as he discusses the concept of emotional eating and how people use food to numb sensations. Learn about the intricacies of feeling the sensations in the split second before you reach out for a bite. You will walk away feeling more empowered and conscious about what you eat, when and how often.

Michael Macaluso is a certified Holistic Health Counselor who specializes in Holistic Nutrition, Food Allergies and whole food consulting. He is a two-time graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York City with an accreditation from the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. www.michaeljmacaluso.info

Tuesday, October 23, 7:45pm-9:45pm $15

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

Hello Again...

Petunia — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 04:31:36 GMT

After I posted on the "how long do you want your man to last thread", I realized that I should probably re-introduce myself. I've been a part of this tribe for many months -- but, I've been gone, studying.

So, hello again, everyone. It's nice to be back and flirting with you ;-)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 27 replies

2 Moons August 27th!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rai — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 04:12:35 GMT

Not related to flirting, fucking or otherwise gettin your groove on (unless you, like myself, are planning to get out of town to an area that is undisturbed by light pollution, noise and just want to cuddle up) but HUGE NEWS:::

August 27th--- Mars will be the closest in orbit that it will EVER be for the next 2500 years (approximately, actually it's more like 2287). Our esteemed Red Planet will be only 35M miles away from us<---- that is almost as close as our Moon.

Around Monday 12:30am, step outside and take a look at the 2 Moons we have in our sky!!!!!!!!!!!!

No one alive will ever again witness such a phenomenon.

C U Out There!!!!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

No one's flirting at 8:30 in the morning?

Prodigo — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 15:31:31 GMT

It's 8:30AM PST.... Is there a "no flirting before coffee" rule? ;-)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 28 replies

Wink wink

Otto — Sat, 04 Aug 2007 15:23:14 GMT

Just saying High from the Black Rock desert
I hope I'll get to meat some of you at Burning Man
and remember flirting can get you everything ;)
-Otto von Danger

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 4 replies

Hey Guys

trinsic — Sat, 11 Aug 2007 16:51:19 GMT

New here, im usually flirting in the seduction tribe but everyone there is on a extended sabatical or something... I have to keep up my skills.

its a pleasure to find a new possible home for being naughty :-P

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 24 replies

Worse Place For Sex

dsoul — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 16:51:18 GMT

Where would you cartegorise as the worse place/places to ever think about having sex, no matter how much in the mood you're in?

For me, I'd choose in an airplane.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 24 replies

How long do you want your man to last...

999 — Wed, 16 May 2007 19:49:13 GMT

...during sex?

This has been a question of mine for some time now.

The last time for me was two hours...

I mean, at what point does it hurt, get boring, or what? What about if it "happens too quick"? how do you handle that? and what about "quickies"? How do you handle that if it goes too long?

Now, this does not include everything else-just intercourse....now, this is assuming that you have had satisfying foreplay and the mood is right, romance, whatever...etc....you catch my drift.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 29 replies

Longest Duration Without Sex

dsoul — Sat, 28 Jul 2007 20:08:06 GMT

Here's a question that we all should be more familiar with: what's the record of your longest duration being without sex, and how did you feel about it afterwards?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 22 replies

What Guys Say During Sex?

LilShadow — Thu, 18 Jan 2007 18:07:59 GMT

I meant to post this here and accidentally posted it to the wrong tribe, but what the heck!? I can get more answers this way...lol

Are we at the age where we can believe them yet? Or are we still like a bunch of kids in high school who just either says what a girl wants to hear to get some? OR they feel that in the heat of the moment and blurt it out, but then not necessarily mean it afterwards?

Guys as you mature what is your take? Has it changed since you have gronw up? Are you more responsible for your pillow talk now compared to when you were young? Or does things like this still happen?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 75 replies

have you ever had the urge...

999 — Fri, 25 May 2007 06:30:29 GMT

...to just say something dirty to someone?

something so raunchy and so naughty that you were almost ashamed of yourself?

like "I wanna fuck your brains out so hard, it'll make you stupid"

I mean, I have some really raunchy thoughts right now, like "I'm gonna do you so deep, that you gonna feel by cock in the back of your throat!" (now, THAT can be interpreted in two ways...)

I don't know.

"baby, I'm gonna fuck you so you cum so hard, you gonna buck like a wild bronco!"

something like that....

I think I have to start having sex or at least working out again or else I may lose my mind.

hmmmm....sex.....or working out....

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 29 replies

Hello

Amanda Hugnkiss — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 12:14:24 GMT

Hi, well my name is Amanda, I live in Melbourne, I am married, have one little boy. I love to flirt, infact I like to flirt with anyone, male or female, old, young, married, single..... just like to chat a bit. I am really honest and always tell the truth. Um, what would you want to know? I have this really cool party trick with a banana which I do fully clothed of course. I don't embaress easily, but am rather shy in some ways too.

I am babbling, must remind myself to stop talking now....

:-)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 22 replies

What Spoils The Mood

dsoul — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 17:57:41 GMT

You're feeling a strong warmth of fire and desire burning in you, as the two of you inch closer towards the bedroom ... clothes start to fly across the room ... sex in ripe in the air ... and suddenly it happens: OH NO! I can't believe it!!

A million and one things can happen that can just as easily kill the mood in you. Tell me some of yours, if any.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 34 replies

What Grabs You

dsoul — Fri, 25 May 2007 20:38:12 GMT

Say you're at a club or a social place and you noticed a pretty looking thing down by the corner away from you, what's the first thing about him/her that catches your attention: his smile, his eyes, what?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 27 replies

What is sexy?

999 — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 05:15:50 GMT

I'll tell ya what sexy is:

When I'm making love to a girl, we are both soaked from sweat, and its just dripping off of me onto her body as I hover over her...THAT turns me on so much...

Tell me, guys, what is sexy?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

go forth and FLIRT

999 — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 05:42:22 GMT

I summon all of my flirty minions to flirt!

go forth, and flirt this week!

bring back stories to tell!

or just post something interesting that you did!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 9 replies

Girls of Spike's Calendar Is Here!

annikakes — Wed, 25 Jul 2007 17:40:21 GMT

Hi all you shameless flirts. Sunshine said it would be okay for me to post this here. Now you can get your very own 15 month calendar filled with the lovelies of Spike's Vampire Bar

The Girls of Spike's 15 Month Calendar is ready for pre-order!

A fund raiser for Spike's Vampire Bar and Spike's Inferno,
all of the models, the photographer and the graphic designer
have generously donated their time and mad skills to this fabulous project.

Pre-order to reserve a copy or 10 today for $15 + shipping at
http://www.girlsofspikes.com

Also, please join us for an exciting celebration
August 10th, 2007 at supperclub for
The Girls of Spike's Calendar Release Party
Details here: http://www.girlsofspikes.com/release

Pre-order your calendar and party ticket together for $30.

Please note that when you pre-order your ticket or your ticket and calendar package
that Paypal will say that it is including shipping costs. Paypal requires a shipping fee field.
What we've done is make it so that the cost of the ticket plus the Paypal shipping fee comes out
to the proper amount of $15 for a ticket or $30 for a calendar & ticket combo.

Thank you for your support! We know you'll like the calendars.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

Attraction To The Other

dsoul — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 17:50:38 GMT

Say you're in a relationship with a guy/girl that's got your total fancy ... and then one day, you get yourself introduced to his/her best friend, and for some reason or another, you simply can't get your blood from simmering down anytime this other walks in on the two of you. Ever gotten yourself attracted to his/her other friend, and have you ever done anything major about it?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 25 replies

what's better for you ?

svetlana — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 04:49:03 GMT

Tampax or Wings ?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 7 replies

Quickie or Longie?

Ron — Sun, 01 Jul 2007 05:57:54 GMT

I seem to be incapable of having sex for less than an hour or so minimum. What is your preference? A quickie? All night? All day and all night?

Personally, I like to have an entire weekend to fully explore and enjoy my lover.

Discuss!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 11 replies

otto von flirt

spy — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 21:47:01 GMT

i saw the women SWARMING otto last saturday nigt.
he was HOT that night!!!!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 5 replies

Sexiest Body Part

dsoul — Wed, 16 May 2007 17:09:43 GMT

Just want to know, which part of your body do your regard as totally sexy and hot enough to spine-tingle any prey you're after?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 40 replies

Alright you flirty little f*cks!!!

CrAyOnS — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 06:27:09 GMT

Apparently I have been missing out... Teach me your ways, oh wise horny ones....

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 28 replies

Show Me the Ropes

cybersport — Sat, 30 Jun 2007 12:52:38 GMT

Looking for feedback from the ladies in this Tribe.

What' s a good way of letting a female friend know that i wouldn't mind having her tie me up? I'm not talking about something mean or nasty but rather playful and lighthearted.

Finding someone who is understanding about my interest has proven to be extraordinarily difficult; maybe it's just a case of not many women having an interest in tying up a guy.

At any rate, feedback is welcome. Thank you all.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Gettin' It On Venue

dsoul — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 20:49:54 GMT

Just curious, which is your favourite venue when having sex: bedroom, living room, bathroom, outdoors, etc?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 24 replies

Sex Party Group Looking for HOT, Single MEN 21-40yrs...

Jodie — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 21:52:33 GMT

SOTC is a group of over 500 members, mostly couples and single women and are currently taking applications for SEXY single men to attend our parties. (Of course couples and single women are always encouraged to apply as well.) Bisexual a plus!

All single men have to be prescreened in person by the hosts - we are having a Meet & Greet next FRIDAY night in SF at an upscale strip club.

All guests have to be members (nominal fee to join) which includes invites to parties and social events, a forum to chat with other members, a newsletter, and a community of like-minded adults at your fingertips.

Looking for that single girl who is into play parties and swapping with others? We have made a few connections in the past for singles, we even have a pending marriage. You never know who you might meet a FWB, or even your future partner.

Apply online today and get an SOTC membership to get the invite to next Friday's Meet & Greet. You do not want to miss that meet as all of the men who have been prescreen will instantly be placed on ALL guest list for future parties!

If you are a couple or single woman - we are having a party this SAT, become a member and get your invite ASAP.

See site for details... www.SOTCparty.com

~Jodie~
SOTC Hostess

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 0 replies

mmm

temptress_deborah — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 19:21:20 GMT

I'm a happy girl!!! despite not being a noobee in here I did get my in real life spankings from the lovely miss TrayC AND I also got to meet our gorgeous mod Sunshine in person too!!! mmm - I'm a happy girl :)

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 13 replies

Watermelon

Thu, 14 Jun 2007 14:39:13 GMT

Each seedy slice stands evident
Of summer's glist'ning testament:
While what may drips from red red face
Learn happiness is a sticky place.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 6 replies

How Romantic ...

dsoul — Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:09:24 GMT

Just want to know, how romantic a person would you say you are, both to your lover (if by chance you have one presently with you), and to yourself?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 10 replies

Sex n' Music

dsoul — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 21:04:35 GMT

What kind of music/artist do you usually listen to when feeling erotic and in the mood for it?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 14 replies

Noooobies sign in HERE!

999 — Thu, 17 May 2007 04:00:02 GMT

Tell us who you new CUMMERS are and share something kinky or flirty about yourself.

Report to TrayC and Snicker for your complimentary spanking!

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 43 replies

any gals in/near the inland empire who'd like to hook up?

Kevin — Mon, 11 Jun 2007 19:50:45 GMT

Hi, my name’s Kevin and I need some help. I still new to this whole dating thing and I’m getting the feeling that I may need a 3rd base coach to help me pick up on some aspects of flirting that I haven’t figured out on my own yet.

That with the fact that I’m still new to the inland empire and haven’t been able to find any hangouts that weren’t overrun with high schoolers makes my dating prospects look bleak.

So I’d welcome any comments or suggestions you can offer. Or if you’d like to stop by for a date, I’d be up for that too.

Thanks for your time,
Kevin

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 2 replies

personal ad looking for Cybil...

999 — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 01:34:29 GMT

I need an unstable woman for a drama filled relationship…

Hi there,

I’m seeking a like-minded woman to share a disastrous 3-9 month relationship with, ending in acrimony, emotional chaos, and possibly legal proceedings.

My name is Lloyd, I live in Chicago , I’m 27 years old, fairly well educated, I hold down a good job and am pretty stable. I’m told I’m fairly good looking, but I’ll let you be the judge of that - I’m generally caring and very honest.

I am looking for an attractive female who will at first give me obsessive love, praise and devotion - but whose paranoia, self-loathing and fear of rejection and abandonment will eventually lead her to alternately push me away and pull me closer in a love/hate cycle that will lead to infidelity, consensual sexual violence, and the eventual emotional breakdown of one or other party - or if we’re lucky - both!

You should:

* be 20 to 35 years old;
* have a history of short, intense, drama-driven relationships;
* enjoy degrading and dehumanizing sex;
* have undergone negative psychiatric evaluations in the past; and
* be willing to threaten self-harm and/or annihilation as a weapon to control your partner and make them stay with you and care for you.

Although not completely necessary, I would prefer women:

* with nice smiles;
* that have larger than average breasts;
* who are married or already in unstable relationships;
* that drink to forget; and
* who have had a previous established diagnosis of Borderline or Dependent Personality Disorder or Bi-Polar Affective Disorder - or who are currently taking Lithium Carbonate, SSRIs, or Tri-cyclic antidepressants

If you think you meet these requirements (and wow, I’m getting excited just writing them!), please don’t hesitate to get back to me as soon as possible. In the meantime, thank you for reading my advert, and do take care.

All the best,

Lloyd

www.ofuzi.com/2007/05/27/...elationship/

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 1 reply

Flirt with me RIGHT now!

999 — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 04:21:04 GMT

I am going for a walk, and if there isn't some hard core flirting shamelessly happening here I am going to FREAK.

and YOU don't want to see ME on a freak out. It ain't pretty.

i just took a totally unecessary cold shower and I'm feeling "irked".

SO-flirt or suffer the punitive punishment with a pleather paddle.

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 3 replies

What is your secret turn on?

999 — Wed, 16 May 2007 19:56:00 GMT

tell me something about you, a secret, that few people know about....something that turns you on that you don't share with too many people..................

What is your secret passion?

posted in Flirting Shamelessly - 31 replies