Yes. I achieve no greater satisfaction than when I help a woman achieve multiple orgasms. When she rolls over out of breath still shaky looks me in the eyes and says "thank you" that to me is the best thing in the world. I am aware that women lie about cumming, but I've been with some very honest women recently who have told me that I'm the best, and I know women say shit like that to make us feel good, so I went to some of their ex's for further investigation. None of them were lying. I've made it a point to learn all I can about it, because when i was younger I had some really BAD sex, and the reason it was bad, was because my lover was unsatisfied, and to me that's horrible. I'm a sensitive person, and I've always recognized that when a woman makes that leap of faith to sleep with a guy for te first time, she'd BETTER get hers, cuz if not, and she just took that leap and it was BAD well that's terrible. So, I've made it a point to read books and watch videos and practice, and one think that I've found to be true is that women get off in different ways, so being fully attentive is crucial. Inhibition for me has never been a problem, so in that respect I'm just lucky I guess.

As for me, I can say that I'm equal to the task .. but I'd rather prefer if the lady be the judge.

I know myself to be a good lover, because I love what I and we are doing. When it's right, whether that's chemistry or timing, sex is one of my favorite things in the world to do with someone else. I love both the new exploration and the old familiarity with what turns someone on. The sounds, scents, feel and taste of a lover turns me on so much, and exploring my lover thoroughly with all my senses is a meditation in and of itself. I have enough experience to know - and learn - how to turn someone on, and it's one of my great pleasures to be able to do so. I'm the lover I am because of just how much I love sex, all of it, from the first kiss to cuddling in the afterglow and beyond.

I don't know. To be truthful, I haven't had very many partners to have a spectrum of reference or feedback. I'm just me, and I try to express my enjoyment, my enthusiasm, and my willingness to please. The feedback I have gotten has been positive.

hmmmmm......I know that my intention when the chemistry is there aligns with the results and the expererience is amazing beyond words...To please her and adore here body is my focus most times to cares and hold and kiss and lick and love each body part as the whole, in a way a meditation with my lover and the opportunity to please her and enjoy and gaze at her as she moans with pleasure and moves in ecstasy as the passion increases an builds into a scream on her part and I remain ready to go at it again.....then there are times when I am just ready to explode that I do not even attempt to control and just surrender to the need to release and let it all go....

nope ...so I need LOTS of practice..& patient lovers

any one wanna show me the ropes?

Amy:-)

In my country, most males tend to regard themselves as tigers in bed, but we all know that can't always be true. I do believe in myself of being a true love in the sense that I enjoy taking my time when it comes to giving a woman satisfaction and pleasure.

..kinda yes... rather say.. "rising" to the occassion:)..but then.. who wouldnt wanna learn more....

I'm great in bed(or anywhere else)
and I'm on the Playa now(just finished building the Man and J4)
I can't wait to meet some of you come event time.If your lucky, you'll find out just how good I am !
-Otto

Then again, I might as well admit that I'm quite FORMIDABLE in the sack!

I would have to say I am pretty good in bed and I try to be very attentive to my lover.
I have never had much difficulty in getting a guy hot and eager.
I have been told wow that was amazing. But unfortunatelly I have had some guys that needed a little work on their technique. And I try to be honest but gentle when they ask me if I came or not.

I think both have to be open and communicate what they like or don't.
And if you are feeling pressured into being good it can ruin it as well.

I think that perhaps the better question would be: Do the women who have shared my bed with me consider me "good in bed"?

I can only go by the responses of the women I've been with. I have often heard stories of women that were "non-orgasmic", but I've never encountered one in my bed. In fact, every woman I've ever been with was multi-orgasmic. Maybe I've just been lucky in my choice of women.

>Having recently experienced a rejection of further interest by someone who'd only had a wee taste, I found myself thinking: "Your loss, buddy!".

Psht, what-evah. I'd put that ass ta sleep like.... repeatedly. Crushed on ya from the first time I saw ya. Hell, s'the whole reason I joined LA burners lol ;)

>Do you feel you are a good lover? Do you feel you have some amazing lovin' to offer someone who deserves it?
Or are you unsure of your skills in bed? Feel uncomfortable?

I suppose I used to be unsure back in high-school. I didn't grow up in a particularly progressive place. I left as soon as I was legal and headed for the fetish clubs of Miami. I stayed on track and worked in some GREAT fetish clubs, met some awesome nurturing instructive people, and was taken as a pleasure slave for two years.

After pulling that off, I pretty much lost my doubts. Once you can bring three girls to silmultaneous orgasm (in fact quite literally 'on command') without penetration you can pretty much write your own ticket sexually. heh

Have you been praised or criticized (or both) about your performance?
I guess this question's getting a bit complicated. Answer or riff on whichever part(s) you want!

Criticized? Not really. I think everyone gets the "wait, stay right there" or "Okay, move down a bit" every once in awhile. NO ONE can say they are a good lover and also say that they don't need / haven't taken instruction. The sexual experience is so objective, particularly for women, that unless you remain receptive and fluid it doesn't matter if you can ring one person's bell every time. You can still get pink-slipped by the very next person you're with.

I think that being good in bed is directly related to how you treat your partner out of bed. I have always found that being gentle, caring, and respectful during all the times when we are not in bed, makes for amazing experiences in bed, on a picnic bench, in the woods, on the beach... wherever the moment catches us.

I'll turn it around on you. What do you think makes good lover?

Absolutely! I've made grown men cry and younger ones, too. ;) The best compliment that I've received is that I'm a genius lay.

I leave to those who have shared my bed with me to judge... If I have not pleased them, what I might say would mean little...

Of course, I'm great in bed. I'm even better on beaches, in the grass, against rocks and next to large trees....

Yeah, whoever finishes first, wins...right?

Sometimes I came to realise with my previous lover that much of the fault wasn't from me but rather from her for being so wooden in bed.